Saturday, November 6, 2010
Relationhips and Romance: 10YRS Roman Give Birth in Spain
Relationhips and Romance: 10YRS Roman Give Birth in Spain: "A person is an adult if the society he/she lives sees him/her as such...if Roman society see a 10yrs as old enough to give birth what is wro..."
10YRS Roman Give Birth in Spain
A person is an adult if the society he/she lives sees him/her as such...if Roman society see a 10yrs as old enough to give birth what is wrong...education start from birth till death she can still go back to school if she so please. In this part of d world it is morally wrong and a reflection of moral bankruptcy in the homes, but in other society crazy things happen. The husband is 13yrs which is also a carryover of moral misnomer in such advance society but how young is too young to have a baby. If you can take care of the child.
Friday, November 5, 2010
How to Get Her Back!
Many think that it is impossible for you to get back a girlfriend once a break up occurs, so if you are thinking this way, you aren't alone. Most guys think that this is it and there is no chance of being able to get her back, and having these thoughts can keep them from doing anything about the relationship. Well, let me tell you, if you decide to take that route, of being convinced there is nothing you can do, then you will NEVER get her back. You have to forget the idea that it's impossible to get her back, and instead focus on simple ways to get her back.
Here are some simple ways to get her back:
1. Get over the pain and agony your feeling over the break up and let her see you can deal with it- Forget about all the equality of the world, and learn one simple fact, women still want a man to be strong. You may hear from women all the time that they want a sensitive man who isn't afraid of shedding a tear or who see's it, but women react better to a strong man who doesn't get all emotional. You need to shelve those emotions for the time being and let her see you are dealing with things fine.
2. Show her your fun side- One thing most guys do after a break up, is get serious any time they talk to or run into her. The truth is that the more serious they act, the more it pushes their ex girlfriend away from them. Be fun and make her laugh, basically think back to the beginning when you were going after her. You didn't act all uptight and serious did you? Hell no, you tried to make her laugh and have a good time. Acting too serious is a killer if you are looking for ways to get her back.
3. Ways to get her back start with having a plan not just a hope- If you are hoping and praying at night you will be able to win her back, they you are joining an endless line of guys that have come before you that were NEVER able to make it happen. Having hope and a dream are always a good thing, as long as you take action, but the most affective action is having a plan. Keep this in mind, in the search of ways to get her back, you only get a few chances at most. If you screw up too many times, you may as well introduce her to the new guys yourself because you're done.
I'm sure you're a nice guy, but you don't want someone else to be with your ex do you? If you don't act soon it's gonna be too late. Time to decide, do you want win back your ex or do you want to let her go
Here are some simple ways to get her back:
1. Get over the pain and agony your feeling over the break up and let her see you can deal with it- Forget about all the equality of the world, and learn one simple fact, women still want a man to be strong. You may hear from women all the time that they want a sensitive man who isn't afraid of shedding a tear or who see's it, but women react better to a strong man who doesn't get all emotional. You need to shelve those emotions for the time being and let her see you are dealing with things fine.
2. Show her your fun side- One thing most guys do after a break up, is get serious any time they talk to or run into her. The truth is that the more serious they act, the more it pushes their ex girlfriend away from them. Be fun and make her laugh, basically think back to the beginning when you were going after her. You didn't act all uptight and serious did you? Hell no, you tried to make her laugh and have a good time. Acting too serious is a killer if you are looking for ways to get her back.
3. Ways to get her back start with having a plan not just a hope- If you are hoping and praying at night you will be able to win her back, they you are joining an endless line of guys that have come before you that were NEVER able to make it happen. Having hope and a dream are always a good thing, as long as you take action, but the most affective action is having a plan. Keep this in mind, in the search of ways to get her back, you only get a few chances at most. If you screw up too many times, you may as well introduce her to the new guys yourself because you're done.
I'm sure you're a nice guy, but you don't want someone else to be with your ex do you? If you don't act soon it's gonna be too late. Time to decide, do you want win back your ex or do you want to let her go
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Is Love Stronger than Religion?
Is Love Stronger than Religion?
One thing we are all passionate about is religion but continue to wonder how powerful love is when people do crazy things for love. The story was told many years ago of how a young evangelist converted to Islam because the parent of his fiancee wouldn’t give out their daughter to non Moslem. That is just the power of love; it’s like a fire becoming inferno. The question I ask myself, is religion stronger than love or people allow love to becloud their sense of reasoning?
In practicing religion we give and receive love but religion is choosing or born into, something we believe in but love is a strong affection and grows with time. However, we should learn to tolerate and respect others religion, no religion preaches violent, terror and war, only people interprets religion to suite their self desire.
All religions preach peace, love and unity, a virtue we cherishes in our day to day life and something we all have in common. We want to live in peace, share and give love and be united in an egalitarian ideal world. We don’t have a reason to fight one another under the guise of religion besides its personal, an inner relationship with God and not a public discuss. The era has come for the free to be for the slave not the other way. If you are free give love to the slave. That’s religion inside but love outside.
One thing we are all passionate about is religion but continue to wonder how powerful love is when people do crazy things for love. The story was told many years ago of how a young evangelist converted to Islam because the parent of his fiancee wouldn’t give out their daughter to non Moslem. That is just the power of love; it’s like a fire becoming inferno. The question I ask myself, is religion stronger than love or people allow love to becloud their sense of reasoning?
In practicing religion we give and receive love but religion is choosing or born into, something we believe in but love is a strong affection and grows with time. However, we should learn to tolerate and respect others religion, no religion preaches violent, terror and war, only people interprets religion to suite their self desire.
All religions preach peace, love and unity, a virtue we cherishes in our day to day life and something we all have in common. We want to live in peace, share and give love and be united in an egalitarian ideal world. We don’t have a reason to fight one another under the guise of religion besides its personal, an inner relationship with God and not a public discuss. The era has come for the free to be for the slave not the other way. If you are free give love to the slave. That’s religion inside but love outside.
Monday, October 4, 2010
How to Get a Date Online
The key to online dating success if your profile. It's your introduction to your potential date. Most people are uncomfortable writing about themselves so writing their profile can seem like a chore. But if you want to have the best chance of finding love, you're going to have to do some work.
Here are some tips for creating a perfect online profile.
1. Show. Don't Tell. What is fun-loving? I see that so often on profiles but what does it actually mean. Don't leave it to his imagination. If you're fun-loving give an example of it. Tell him what you do for fun. Be specific. Saying I like to travel doesn't say much. But saying which countries you've been to or your favorite road trip destination makes you seem more interesting.
Don't just be "active". Tell what sports you play. List some of your favorite movies. For the perfect online profile you want to be specific when writing your interests and activities. By being detailed you're allowing your potential date to visualize what it would be like to spend time with you. That will make him want to meet you.
2. A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words. This is the first impression your potential date gets of you. Make sure it's recent and clear. In other words don't use the Glamour Shot you took 6 years ago. Have at least one close up photo. If you don't have a photo that you like. Grab a friend and a digital camera. Let them take photos of you doing things you enjoy. Have fun with it.
Don't include party shots, unless you're looking for a party boy. Don't include too many other people in your photos, they can be a distraction. And definitely no pictures with men. Not even a relative or close friend.
3. There's A Reason For All Those Questions. Every online site is different but most ask you questions about yourself. Many times these can be skipped. And most people do. If you want a perfect online profile, answer the questions. Let your potential date know that you're serious about dating. Serious enough to take the time to complete your profile. These question are there to help someone narrow down the list of people they're looking for. So answer as many as you can so that you can spend your time on people who want to meet you.
No one wants to waste time of someone that they're not compatible with. So be honest. Don't lie about your age, body type, height, occupation, income or the type of relationship you want. You don't want your potential date lying about these things and he expects the same from you. Lying here will lead to rejection later. If you think these labels do not accurately describe you. Show it with your photos or write about it in your profile.
If you follow these tips you can have a great profile and be on your way to attracting the type of man you want to be with.
Are you looking for love? Are you tired of meeting the wrong men? Are you sick of trying to figure out why you can't get a second date? Do you want to know why your relationships seem to end before they really start? Finding and keeping the right man isn't always easy and can sometimes seem impossible. But, with the right dating advice and tips, you can make this experience more enjoyable and find the success in dating and relationships that has been eluding you. In the FREE Dating Tips To Finding Love Newsletter you'll discover the secrets for finding and keeping the man of your dreams and building a long-lasting loving passionate relationship with your soulmate. Life. Love. Happiness.
Here are some tips for creating a perfect online profile.
1. Show. Don't Tell. What is fun-loving? I see that so often on profiles but what does it actually mean. Don't leave it to his imagination. If you're fun-loving give an example of it. Tell him what you do for fun. Be specific. Saying I like to travel doesn't say much. But saying which countries you've been to or your favorite road trip destination makes you seem more interesting.
Don't just be "active". Tell what sports you play. List some of your favorite movies. For the perfect online profile you want to be specific when writing your interests and activities. By being detailed you're allowing your potential date to visualize what it would be like to spend time with you. That will make him want to meet you.
2. A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words. This is the first impression your potential date gets of you. Make sure it's recent and clear. In other words don't use the Glamour Shot you took 6 years ago. Have at least one close up photo. If you don't have a photo that you like. Grab a friend and a digital camera. Let them take photos of you doing things you enjoy. Have fun with it.
Don't include party shots, unless you're looking for a party boy. Don't include too many other people in your photos, they can be a distraction. And definitely no pictures with men. Not even a relative or close friend.
3. There's A Reason For All Those Questions. Every online site is different but most ask you questions about yourself. Many times these can be skipped. And most people do. If you want a perfect online profile, answer the questions. Let your potential date know that you're serious about dating. Serious enough to take the time to complete your profile. These question are there to help someone narrow down the list of people they're looking for. So answer as many as you can so that you can spend your time on people who want to meet you.
No one wants to waste time of someone that they're not compatible with. So be honest. Don't lie about your age, body type, height, occupation, income or the type of relationship you want. You don't want your potential date lying about these things and he expects the same from you. Lying here will lead to rejection later. If you think these labels do not accurately describe you. Show it with your photos or write about it in your profile.
If you follow these tips you can have a great profile and be on your way to attracting the type of man you want to be with.
Are you looking for love? Are you tired of meeting the wrong men? Are you sick of trying to figure out why you can't get a second date? Do you want to know why your relationships seem to end before they really start? Finding and keeping the right man isn't always easy and can sometimes seem impossible. But, with the right dating advice and tips, you can make this experience more enjoyable and find the success in dating and relationships that has been eluding you. In the FREE Dating Tips To Finding Love Newsletter you'll discover the secrets for finding and keeping the man of your dreams and building a long-lasting loving passionate relationship with your soulmate. Life. Love. Happiness.
Saturday, September 18, 2010
What a Woman Need
Before you start reading this article, I want you to bear in mind that in any relationship do not based your judgment on attraction, be being able to understand your partner that way you will be able to tolerate each other until death separate both.. but attraction is important it causes the first move...
We all know that men are sexually attracted to women by looks but are women similarly attracted to men by looks too? The answer is yes and no. Yes, looks may be the initial attraction she is attracted to you, but ultimately it will be your personality that dictates whether the initial attraction will last.
In other words, you may be the most handsome man in the world, but if you do not portray sexually attractive male traits such as confidence, leadership, humor amongst many other physical and psychological male traits that are attractive to women, you can bet your last money that her initial attraction to you will not last.
You see, this is because women instinctively want a partner who is secured, can be dependent on to provide shelter, food and protection, and the minimum spoil of life. She may not even know this on the rational level but her mind is hardwired to be attracted to these male personalities through her survival instinct mode.
So if you want to be the kind of man who is sexually attractive to women, then there are a few male personality traits that you must possess and what are these traits? Well, I will give a few examples here.
First and foremost, you must have self-confidence and this must be displayed for all to see. However, displaying self-confidence is not being an arrogant jerk. Self confidence is a sexually attractive trait whereas arrogance is a complete turned off to women or even men for that matter.
Women want real men, not cowards or shy nerds no matter how well behave or nice they may be. They instinctively want to pass on the "fittest survives" genes to their children. So if you are too nice to women, they will see you as a subservient guy that can be friends with but definitely not a potential mating partner.
Most guys think that the more they cater to a woman, the more likely it is that she will be attracted to him. Now you know that this is not true.
Next, women love men who are fun and have a good sense of humor. Why is this so? Let me ask you a question. Put yourself in a woman's shoe. If you are going to live with someone for the rest of your life, will you find someone who is dull, boring and is serious most of the time? See the point? You definitely want to live with someone whom you will have a good time for the rest of your life, isn't it?
Women are also sexually attracted to men who are comfortable in social settings and society at large. This is because this attractive male trait shows that you can handle social situations that can crop up now and then in a cool and composed manner. It shows that you are a problem solver and not a whiner. This portrays you as a real dependable man and which women are not attracted to a real and dependable man?
These few are OK for now because I believe ability to master this will do wonders in your relationships with women. Until then have a lovely relationship!
We all know that men are sexually attracted to women by looks but are women similarly attracted to men by looks too? The answer is yes and no. Yes, looks may be the initial attraction she is attracted to you, but ultimately it will be your personality that dictates whether the initial attraction will last.
In other words, you may be the most handsome man in the world, but if you do not portray sexually attractive male traits such as confidence, leadership, humor amongst many other physical and psychological male traits that are attractive to women, you can bet your last money that her initial attraction to you will not last.
You see, this is because women instinctively want a partner who is secured, can be dependent on to provide shelter, food and protection, and the minimum spoil of life. She may not even know this on the rational level but her mind is hardwired to be attracted to these male personalities through her survival instinct mode.
So if you want to be the kind of man who is sexually attractive to women, then there are a few male personality traits that you must possess and what are these traits? Well, I will give a few examples here.
First and foremost, you must have self-confidence and this must be displayed for all to see. However, displaying self-confidence is not being an arrogant jerk. Self confidence is a sexually attractive trait whereas arrogance is a complete turned off to women or even men for that matter.
Women want real men, not cowards or shy nerds no matter how well behave or nice they may be. They instinctively want to pass on the "fittest survives" genes to their children. So if you are too nice to women, they will see you as a subservient guy that can be friends with but definitely not a potential mating partner.
Most guys think that the more they cater to a woman, the more likely it is that she will be attracted to him. Now you know that this is not true.
Next, women love men who are fun and have a good sense of humor. Why is this so? Let me ask you a question. Put yourself in a woman's shoe. If you are going to live with someone for the rest of your life, will you find someone who is dull, boring and is serious most of the time? See the point? You definitely want to live with someone whom you will have a good time for the rest of your life, isn't it?
Women are also sexually attracted to men who are comfortable in social settings and society at large. This is because this attractive male trait shows that you can handle social situations that can crop up now and then in a cool and composed manner. It shows that you are a problem solver and not a whiner. This portrays you as a real dependable man and which women are not attracted to a real and dependable man?
These few are OK for now because I believe ability to master this will do wonders in your relationships with women. Until then have a lovely relationship!
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Simple Step by Step on How to Solve Relationships Problems.
The Secrets of How to Avoid Breakup in a Relationship!
Avoiding breakup in our relationships depends on the strength of our apology and the wiliness to be selfless and not self centered. Apologies happen—sometimes multiple times a day. We apologize when we unintentionally say something hurtful to love ones, when we make a mistake at work, home, school, infidelity, lies, or when we bump into somebody on the street. And then there are the bigger apologies—those that we should have addressed months or years ago failure of which has led to breakups, loss of confidence, breach of trust. Maybe we said something to alienate someone we have judged too quickly or did something that we regret. Saying, “I'm sorry”, remains one of the hardest things to do. We justify our actions, we present half-apologies, we blame the one we’ve hurt, or we expect something in return.
Yet a true and sincere apology can clear the air and potentially heal or sweeten a sour relationship. So what are the secrete of saying a candid apology and make love ones wish they never pick a quarrel but love you more for what you did.
Action and Inaction: Taking responsibility for what you did intentionally or unintentionally
Cohesion of Intellect and Emotions: It’s easy to say “I’m sorry,” but meaning it is another story. A true apology occurs when the heart and head are in alignment, when you intellectually and emotionally accept the responsibility for causing another person pain, even if you’ve done it unintentionally. Becoming accountable for your actions and inaction's is the foundation of an honest apology.
Write Before Speaking: If you are struggling to find the right words, write your apology down first. Writing gives you the space and time to see how you really feel—for instance, you’ll discover whether you are truly sorry or whether you harbor any lingering hostility toward the person. Its important to deal with these feelings before approaching the one you’ve hurt, or you may reopen the conflict.
No Quid Pro Quo:
A true apology is a selfless act—an apology is insincere when it is about wanting (forgiveness, attention,) and not about giving. If you hurt a loved one with words or actions, take a moment to accept your role in what has happened and to imagine how you would feel if the same was done to you. At that point you can begin to make an apology that requires nothing from the one who is receiving it. Keep it simple: “I understand that I really hurt you and I want you to know that I am truly sorry.”
Avoid Responding Defensively: When you apologize you are tapping into humility by acknowledging your weaknesses and recognizing the grace of another human being. For example, if a friend tells you that you hurt her feelings by saying something insensitive, acknowledge the slip without becoming defensive or blaming (i.e. “I thought you wanted me to be honest with you!” or “You always speak like that to me”). When it’s time to apologize experiment with something like this, “I didn’t realize that my words were so hurtful, but I can see now how they must have stung. I truly am sorry that I caused you any pain.”
Have a Genuine Intention:
Be sure to clarify the intention of your apology—even when the person you’ve hurt is not open to receiving your words. Ask yourself if you truly are sorry that you’ve inflicted pain and when the answer is “yes,” work to find the appropriate words to illustrate your feelings. Regardless of the words you choose, your true intention will shine through—so be honest with yourself before approaching another with an apology.
By making something right with someone else, we are also making things right within ourselves... to be continue www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Avoiding breakup in our relationships depends on the strength of our apology and the wiliness to be selfless and not self centered. Apologies happen—sometimes multiple times a day. We apologize when we unintentionally say something hurtful to love ones, when we make a mistake at work, home, school, infidelity, lies, or when we bump into somebody on the street. And then there are the bigger apologies—those that we should have addressed months or years ago failure of which has led to breakups, loss of confidence, breach of trust. Maybe we said something to alienate someone we have judged too quickly or did something that we regret. Saying, “I'm sorry”, remains one of the hardest things to do. We justify our actions, we present half-apologies, we blame the one we’ve hurt, or we expect something in return.
Yet a true and sincere apology can clear the air and potentially heal or sweeten a sour relationship. So what are the secrete of saying a candid apology and make love ones wish they never pick a quarrel but love you more for what you did.
Action and Inaction: Taking responsibility for what you did intentionally or unintentionally
Cohesion of Intellect and Emotions: It’s easy to say “I’m sorry,” but meaning it is another story. A true apology occurs when the heart and head are in alignment, when you intellectually and emotionally accept the responsibility for causing another person pain, even if you’ve done it unintentionally. Becoming accountable for your actions and inaction's is the foundation of an honest apology.
Write Before Speaking: If you are struggling to find the right words, write your apology down first. Writing gives you the space and time to see how you really feel—for instance, you’ll discover whether you are truly sorry or whether you harbor any lingering hostility toward the person. Its important to deal with these feelings before approaching the one you’ve hurt, or you may reopen the conflict.
No Quid Pro Quo:
A true apology is a selfless act—an apology is insincere when it is about wanting (forgiveness, attention,) and not about giving. If you hurt a loved one with words or actions, take a moment to accept your role in what has happened and to imagine how you would feel if the same was done to you. At that point you can begin to make an apology that requires nothing from the one who is receiving it. Keep it simple: “I understand that I really hurt you and I want you to know that I am truly sorry.”
Avoid Responding Defensively: When you apologize you are tapping into humility by acknowledging your weaknesses and recognizing the grace of another human being. For example, if a friend tells you that you hurt her feelings by saying something insensitive, acknowledge the slip without becoming defensive or blaming (i.e. “I thought you wanted me to be honest with you!” or “You always speak like that to me”). When it’s time to apologize experiment with something like this, “I didn’t realize that my words were so hurtful, but I can see now how they must have stung. I truly am sorry that I caused you any pain.”
Have a Genuine Intention:
Be sure to clarify the intention of your apology—even when the person you’ve hurt is not open to receiving your words. Ask yourself if you truly are sorry that you’ve inflicted pain and when the answer is “yes,” work to find the appropriate words to illustrate your feelings. Regardless of the words you choose, your true intention will shine through—so be honest with yourself before approaching another with an apology.
By making something right with someone else, we are also making things right within ourselves... to be continue www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Friday, August 20, 2010
Common Mistakes in a Relationships
What could you be doing wrong? What makes a relationship work and what kills it? How does love progress and what should you be careful of? There are three common mistakes that millions of women are making which could be why they are still single.
The most common mistake that will ruin relationships and love is pressure. This rarely works and too often damages an otherwise healthy connection. If you have to pressure a man to say, "I love you" or propose, it's a dead end anyways. When he loves you he will say so and propose when he is ready for marriage. Don't make this common mistake that ruins many relationships and love.
A man doesn't want a woman who tries too hard that she becomes annoying and pushy. You are not there to be at his beck and call and you have your own needs as well that should be equally met. You will burn yourself out, be taken for granted, and be unhappy. He will actually be turned off that you are constantly around to make him happy when he really wants a break. Avoid these common mistakes that ruin relationships and love.
A woman with no life of her own isn't much of a catch. If you don't have friends, that is a sign there is something wrong with you. Put yourself out there to meet a couple people to have a good time with at least once a week and someone to confide in. Even a sister is a great companion to hit the town and chat with. Women with no life have too much time to call and bug their man. He doesn't want you calling all of the time or the neediness that most women have.
Get your own happy life on the side of your relationship, don't try too hard to please him and forget about you, and don't ever force him into any relationship milestone he isn't ready for. This is your help to not make the common mistakes that ruin relationships and love.www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
The most common mistake that will ruin relationships and love is pressure. This rarely works and too often damages an otherwise healthy connection. If you have to pressure a man to say, "I love you" or propose, it's a dead end anyways. When he loves you he will say so and propose when he is ready for marriage. Don't make this common mistake that ruins many relationships and love.
A man doesn't want a woman who tries too hard that she becomes annoying and pushy. You are not there to be at his beck and call and you have your own needs as well that should be equally met. You will burn yourself out, be taken for granted, and be unhappy. He will actually be turned off that you are constantly around to make him happy when he really wants a break. Avoid these common mistakes that ruin relationships and love.
A woman with no life of her own isn't much of a catch. If you don't have friends, that is a sign there is something wrong with you. Put yourself out there to meet a couple people to have a good time with at least once a week and someone to confide in. Even a sister is a great companion to hit the town and chat with. Women with no life have too much time to call and bug their man. He doesn't want you calling all of the time or the neediness that most women have.
Get your own happy life on the side of your relationship, don't try too hard to please him and forget about you, and don't ever force him into any relationship milestone he isn't ready for. This is your help to not make the common mistakes that ruin relationships and love.www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
9 Rules of Relationships
In a relationship, your ability to understand and respond to the other person's needs and desires are fundamental. Understanding the nature of relationships themselves may be as important to your success in love as understanding the person with whom you're having the relationship.
The key to a working relationship is twofold. First you need to work on a relationship day in and day out. Second you need the right information to pinpoint where the relationship needs work. Without this information you're simply assuming and assumptions are the enemy to any healthy relationship.
From puppy love to winter romances, the following is true of all relationships
1. Relationships Don't Just Happen
Relationships aren't accidents that come out of nowhere; you create them and you have to make an effort to maintain them. Remember that the time you invest in others will always pay off.
2. Relationships are Need-based.
Everyone has their own personal needs and desires; your job is to figure out those needs since some may be unexpressed verbally. Not an easy task, therefore you have to focus on your partner. Ask how you can respond to a desire that she or he has.
3. Relationships Don't Hold a Grudge
Despite the use of terms like "perfect match," and "perfect couple," the idea of a perfect relationship is perfectly ridiculous. We all make mistakes dealing with other people, so it's important to be overlooked and/or forgive imperfections in others in order to build strong relationships.
4. Relationships That Endure Take Time
Relationships are formed with long-term goals in mind. This means that deep relationships will evolve slowly because the stakes -- a life partner -- are so great. In this instance, "haste makes waste" and divorce...or at least an ugly break-up.
5. Relationships are As Unique as the Folks That Are In 'Em.
No two people are the same and so no two relationships are the same. Your relationships will deepen and strengthen, if you can accept the uniqueness of others as a precious gift.
6. Relationships Build You Up.
"My partner brings out the best in me," is the way most people define the partner that they love. Relationships are built on encouragement, so always try to make your partner feel good, even if you're urging them beyond their comfort zone to a new level of intimacy.
7. Relationships Are Essential.
It may be a dog eat dog world out there, but man is still a "pack animal," looking for positive healthy relationships. Once you understand that nothing is more important than people, you'll communicate that supportive message in everything you do.
8. Relationships Are For Two.
There is no such thing as a one-person relationship. For a relationship to thrive it requires cooperation from both parties, otherwise it's unrequited love (at best) and stalking (at worst). You can't have a relationship with someone who isn't interested in having one with you.
9. Relationships are Greater Than the Sum of Their Parts.
In good relationships there is energy -- your energy and your partners. This energy pushes each of you to strive to make the relationship work as individuals, and it also drives you to a shared excellence.
Armed with these rules you should be able to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Some caution on this topic. Just because you live and breathe these rules doesn't mean that your relationship will be better or a broken relationship will be fixed. Every situation is unique and requires different approaches. Use these rules as a guide and as a guide only.
Unfortunately a small article can't do justice on the wide spectrum of creating and maintaining a working relationship. You will get the complete picture and step by step explanations in Race Kale's new book "The Power of Charisma".
Peter Dobler is an active real estate investor and a successful home business entrepreneur. Learn how to create and maintain a better relationship with this new bookThe key to a working relationship is twofold. First you need to work on a relationship day in and day out. Second you need the right information to pinpoint where the relationship needs work. Without this information you're simply assuming and assumptions are the enemy to any healthy relationship.
From puppy love to winter romances, the following is true of all relationships
1. Relationships Don't Just Happen
Relationships aren't accidents that come out of nowhere; you create them and you have to make an effort to maintain them. Remember that the time you invest in others will always pay off.
2. Relationships are Need-based.
Everyone has their own personal needs and desires; your job is to figure out those needs since some may be unexpressed verbally. Not an easy task, therefore you have to focus on your partner. Ask how you can respond to a desire that she or he has.
3. Relationships Don't Hold a Grudge
Despite the use of terms like "perfect match," and "perfect couple," the idea of a perfect relationship is perfectly ridiculous. We all make mistakes dealing with other people, so it's important to be overlooked and/or forgive imperfections in others in order to build strong relationships.
4. Relationships That Endure Take Time
Relationships are formed with long-term goals in mind. This means that deep relationships will evolve slowly because the stakes -- a life partner -- are so great. In this instance, "haste makes waste" and divorce...or at least an ugly break-up.
5. Relationships are As Unique as the Folks That Are In 'Em.
No two people are the same and so no two relationships are the same. Your relationships will deepen and strengthen, if you can accept the uniqueness of others as a precious gift.
6. Relationships Build You Up.
"My partner brings out the best in me," is the way most people define the partner that they love. Relationships are built on encouragement, so always try to make your partner feel good, even if you're urging them beyond their comfort zone to a new level of intimacy.
7. Relationships Are Essential.
It may be a dog eat dog world out there, but man is still a "pack animal," looking for positive healthy relationships. Once you understand that nothing is more important than people, you'll communicate that supportive message in everything you do.
8. Relationships Are For Two.
There is no such thing as a one-person relationship. For a relationship to thrive it requires cooperation from both parties, otherwise it's unrequited love (at best) and stalking (at worst). You can't have a relationship with someone who isn't interested in having one with you.
9. Relationships are Greater Than the Sum of Their Parts.
In good relationships there is energy -- your energy and your partners. This energy pushes each of you to strive to make the relationship work as individuals, and it also drives you to a shared excellence.
Armed with these rules you should be able to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Some caution on this topic. Just because you live and breathe these rules doesn't mean that your relationship will be better or a broken relationship will be fixed. Every situation is unique and requires different approaches. Use these rules as a guide and as a guide only.
Unfortunately a small article can't do justice on the wide spectrum of creating and maintaining a working relationship. You will get the complete picture and step by step explanations in Race Kale's new book "The Power of Charisma".
www.gaiusodiase.blospot.com
How to Know the Potential of Any Relatioonship 4
The traditional use of aspects will illustrate the inter-relationship between the composite planets and points. I do reduce the orb of effect to 5 degrees because the composite is a construct and not a real time and space wheel.
Always remember that the composite and the reading is about a couple and not the individuals. Include the word potential in your readings because the composite represents what the relationship is and how it will work if the couple meets each other 50% of the way on all issues.
Composites are quite valuable in the initial stage of the relationship because that is what the people involved are seeing and experiencing. If you have concerns about what you see in the composite as an astrologer it is not easy to get the participants to see your concerns clearly. They see the relationship through the filter of wants, needs and expectations. They want it to succeed so it is difficult to accept that problems may be lurking. Sometimes you have to rain on someone's parade to point out all the facets you see and not just the positives. The reality check occurs in the companion relationship wheel that is based on real-time calculations. Stay tuned.
Recommended reading:
Relationships - An Astrological Look at Possibilities
Relationships - Synastry - Who are You? Who am I? How Do We Affect One Another?
Relationships - Synastry - Who are You? Who am I? How Do We Affect One Another?
Marilyn Muir, author, "Presidents of Hope and Change: Bringing Hope to our Future by Reaching into our Astrological Past." How astrology predicts our nation's future by reaching into our past.
Jefferson, Lincoln, Kennedy, Obama: The Lineage of Hope. Using the influential and interwoven cycles of Jupiter, Saturn, Neptune, Uranus and Pluto to predict issues and trends up to 2012 and even beyond to 2025, Ms Muir leaves us with the clear message of hope as she depicts the future of President Obama at the helm of the USA ship of state. Read the first 36 pages including the charts of all four Presidents - you'll get hooked!www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
How to Know the Potential of Any Relatioonship 3
At the beginning of any meaningful relationship, the people involved really have high hopes for the relationship and are on their best behavior to ensure that the relationship continues. This is an unnatural behavior because none of us can be on our best behavior forever. Sooner or later we will relax into normalcy (for us) and that produces change in the relationship. It is not faking or intentional, it is natural. Most of us will do whatever we must to cement a relationship and then we relax. Over time the potential that enticed us may not turn out to be our actual experience. This can be disillusioning and disappointing but it may not be deliberate. Eventually we each will be true to our own selves as the "ideal" gives way to "reality." If we have made the mistake of putting one another on pedestals this could be devastating as one or both fall off those pedestals. The repercussions from such falls can get very nasty.
Composite is the technique that has been easily available to astrologers for many years both as hand-cast wheels and computer printouts. It is an excellent tool for exploring the potential of the relationship and has been the most popular choice of astrologers worldwide. The alternative is called the relationship wheel and is based in reality but was extremely difficult to calculate by hand. With the advent of computer printouts, this wheel has become increasingly available. The body of information and experience to support this alternative technique is growing but far more information is currently available for the composite technique.
How to Read A relationship in its initial stages can be such a delight. Our imagination and our wishes for a good life are in full bloom as we explore the possibilities. The question is will the ongoing relationship live up to our expectations? It is not individuals who disappoint us. It is our unrealistic expectations that cause failure and frustration. A person on a pedestal has only one direction to go and that is off. We might discover that our knight in shining armor is rusty with a nasty disposition or that any female involved may not be the virtuous Maid Marion.
Composite is the technique that has been easily available to astrologers for many years both as hand-cast wheels and computer printouts. It is an excellent tool for exploring the potential of the relationship and has been the most popular choice of astrologers worldwide. The alternative is called the relationship wheel and is based in reality but was extremely difficult to calculate by hand. With the advent of computer printouts, this wheel has become increasingly available. The body of information and experience to support this alternative technique is growing but far more information is currently available for the composite technique.
How to Read A relationship in its initial stages can be such a delight. Our imagination and our wishes for a good life are in full bloom as we explore the possibilities. The question is will the ongoing relationship live up to our expectations? It is not individuals who disappoint us. It is our unrealistic expectations that cause failure and frustration. A person on a pedestal has only one direction to go and that is off. We might discover that our knight in shining armor is rusty with a nasty disposition or that any female involved may not be the virtuous Maid Marion.
- The composite Sun describes the inherent nature and identity of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena of strongest influence by house.
- The composite Moon describes the nesting urge and the emotional makeup of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where those issues will play out by house.
- Composite Mercury describes the communication and decision-making function of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- Composite Venus describes the relating ability and social and financial values of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- Composite Mars describes the action, assertive and aggressive functions of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- Composite Jupiter describes the expansive, philosophical and worldview of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- Composite Saturn describes the traditional, responsible, organizing function of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- Composite Uranus describes the forward-seeking, non-traditional, unusual facets of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house. Can you say chemistry?
- Composite Neptune describes the imagination, inspiration or the delusional function of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- Composite Pluto describes the power, manipulation or obsessive/compulsive function of the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
- The composite ascendant shows the couple's projection, coping skills, and response to the environment of the couple's relationship potential by sign. (The ascendant is the 1st house cusp). This is how the relationship itself is viewed by others.
- The composite midheaven shows the couple's drive to goals, stature and potential for success as the couple's team relationship potential by sign. (The midheaven is the 10th house cusp). This is what expresses the couple's need to achieve or accomplish.
- The composite north lunar node shows the group interaction and collective influence of outsiders to the couple's relationship potential by sign and the arena where that will play out by house.
How to Know the Potential of Any Relatioonship 2
Suppose I have ten friends. Each pairing provides a unique friendship. This takes nothing away from my other nine friends and enlarges each of our lives because of those friendships. I am bettered and my friend is bettered by our friendship. If I am a better person because of that friendship, I will be a better person to all my other friends, family, co-workers, etc. Whatever adds to my personal dimension in a positive fashion affects everything I do and everyone I touch with my more positive self. Conversely, if I am in a relationship that is negative, that negativity also affects all other relationships in which I participate if I am in any way diminished or compromised in the experience of that one relationship. I have been lessened therefore I am less than what I could be with all whom I come in contact.
To me there seem to be parts or stages to relationships in general. There is an initial introductory part... the beginning. Next comes the process, duration and nature of the relationship. A third stage might have to do with endings or finality. This would translate loosely to a beginning, a middle and an end. I am sure there are other divisions or stages to explore. Each stage has myriad possibilities for experience as each relationship is unique. Astrologically we can easily look at the potential of any relationship (the beginning) and we can also look at the reality of the relationship (the middle and possibly the end). At times the potential and the reality of a relationship work harmoniously. What we see is what we get. At other times a relationship does not live up to its potential. What we see is not what we get. It would be helpful to compare both possibility and reality to determine which relationships have a better chance of success in real life terms. In this article we will examine the potential of the relationship using the composite wheel. The reality of a relationship will be covered in a companion article.
The method by which you construct a composite wheel is to start with the natal (birth) wheels of each of the two individuals involved. Briefly, there are 13 major points that are traditional when reading astrologically: the Sun, Moon, and the eight planets, the ascendant, midheaven and lunar nodes. Thirteen points are primary out of a possible 360-degree circle for each person. You construct these points by adding together the two Suns, the two Moons, the two ascendants, etc. separately. Once you have obtained those totals, you divide each of them by two and that gives you the new figures for the composite wheel. Example: Sun #1 plus Sun #2 divided by two equals the composite Sun. The new wheel is drawn by traditional rules and is called a composite. In our modern era, computer-generated wheels do all the work for you. You have a wheel.
At this point you must do a very unusual thing with your mind. You must stop thinking of the individuals involved and keep your focus on the relationship as an entity. This wheel is not about the individuals, no matter how much one individual wants to slant it in their own direction. This map is about the potential of the relationship that is formed not the individual people involved. I am repeating the word potential for a reason. Because of the mathematics involved, this artificial wheel assumes that the two people involved will meet each other half way on all issues, 50/50, and that is not remotely possible in any society. There must be give and take between the two people involved in any relationship but equalization on all issues is a fantasy. The composite allows you to see the idealized potential but may not fit the actuality of the experience over time. Why?
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
To me there seem to be parts or stages to relationships in general. There is an initial introductory part... the beginning. Next comes the process, duration and nature of the relationship. A third stage might have to do with endings or finality. This would translate loosely to a beginning, a middle and an end. I am sure there are other divisions or stages to explore. Each stage has myriad possibilities for experience as each relationship is unique. Astrologically we can easily look at the potential of any relationship (the beginning) and we can also look at the reality of the relationship (the middle and possibly the end). At times the potential and the reality of a relationship work harmoniously. What we see is what we get. At other times a relationship does not live up to its potential. What we see is not what we get. It would be helpful to compare both possibility and reality to determine which relationships have a better chance of success in real life terms. In this article we will examine the potential of the relationship using the composite wheel. The reality of a relationship will be covered in a companion article.
The method by which you construct a composite wheel is to start with the natal (birth) wheels of each of the two individuals involved. Briefly, there are 13 major points that are traditional when reading astrologically: the Sun, Moon, and the eight planets, the ascendant, midheaven and lunar nodes. Thirteen points are primary out of a possible 360-degree circle for each person. You construct these points by adding together the two Suns, the two Moons, the two ascendants, etc. separately. Once you have obtained those totals, you divide each of them by two and that gives you the new figures for the composite wheel. Example: Sun #1 plus Sun #2 divided by two equals the composite Sun. The new wheel is drawn by traditional rules and is called a composite. In our modern era, computer-generated wheels do all the work for you. You have a wheel.
At this point you must do a very unusual thing with your mind. You must stop thinking of the individuals involved and keep your focus on the relationship as an entity. This wheel is not about the individuals, no matter how much one individual wants to slant it in their own direction. This map is about the potential of the relationship that is formed not the individual people involved. I am repeating the word potential for a reason. Because of the mathematics involved, this artificial wheel assumes that the two people involved will meet each other half way on all issues, 50/50, and that is not remotely possible in any society. There must be give and take between the two people involved in any relationship but equalization on all issues is a fantasy. The composite allows you to see the idealized potential but may not fit the actuality of the experience over time. Why?
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
How to Know the Potential of Any Relatioonship
Recently I explored relationships from the standpoint of the individuals involved, which is astrologically termed synastry. Each of the two people in a relationship is viewed individually for their personal relating potential. Once each is individually described, a comparison between the two describes the more intimate details of their story. However, there is more than one way to look at relationships. At the moment any pairing occurs, a new dynamic is produced which is termed a relationship. Relationships occur on so many levels: parent and child, marriage, boss and worker, teacher and student, siblings, in-laws, law and criminal, doctor and patient, stalker and victim, clergy and parishioner, to name a few.
Regardless of how many people we meet and the circumstances under which we meet them, in a split second of time a unique relationship is formed, one that did not exist prior to that moment and will cease to exist if the two people involved choose not to pursue it. Some of these meetings are brief such as a waitress handing you a cup of coffee. Some last a lifetime such as family members or marriage partners.
The bond that occurs between a mother and a child at the moment of birth is unique. After many years of refusing to allow the father to be present at the birth, the medical establishment currently encourages the father's participation. The split-second bonding that the mother has always experienced is now available to the father. Yes! Nothing can equal that incredible moment and nothing can capture it once it has passed without the father's participation. The mother really does not have a choice at childbirth; her participation is mandatory. Many years ago I took a workshop by Joseph Chilton Pearce in which this birth moment bonding process was explored. I immediately went home and told my son and his pregnant wife to be sure they were both part of the birthing process if it was at all possible. Many grandkids later, my whole family encourages this experience because of the bonding that occurs at the instant of birth.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Regardless of how many people we meet and the circumstances under which we meet them, in a split second of time a unique relationship is formed, one that did not exist prior to that moment and will cease to exist if the two people involved choose not to pursue it. Some of these meetings are brief such as a waitress handing you a cup of coffee. Some last a lifetime such as family members or marriage partners.
The bond that occurs between a mother and a child at the moment of birth is unique. After many years of refusing to allow the father to be present at the birth, the medical establishment currently encourages the father's participation. The split-second bonding that the mother has always experienced is now available to the father. Yes! Nothing can equal that incredible moment and nothing can capture it once it has passed without the father's participation. The mother really does not have a choice at childbirth; her participation is mandatory. Many years ago I took a workshop by Joseph Chilton Pearce in which this birth moment bonding process was explored. I immediately went home and told my son and his pregnant wife to be sure they were both part of the birthing process if it was at all possible. Many grandkids later, my whole family encourages this experience because of the bonding that occurs at the instant of birth.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
How to Substain Attractions in a Relationship 3
Contact Point Five - Attraction through SOUL
From a very early age we create the prince or princess we hope to meet in our life. Each time we meet "the greatest love I've ever felt" we meet another piece of that puzzle called SOUL MATE. It's cumulative, we meet someone, find 20% of our SOUL MATE image, break up, meet the next LOVE OF MY LIFE - and now, there's 30%. The time it takes to meet, merge, discover the incomplete missing bits and move on, varies between a few weeks and for some, a lifetime. I know of couples who boast 40 years together, but, the reason they stayed was, that they learned to compromise. The Quest For SOUL MATE is natural. The interesting thing about SOUL MATE level of connection with another person is that it has no rational foundation in any of the previous four levels and, takes no time. I met my first wife, when I was 19 years old and knew within seconds that she was "THE ONE" - actually she was around 50% of my Princess Soul mate, and I knew that after 6 weeks. Thirteen years later, we divorced.
There are some closing comments:
When one level begins to crumble, the solution is to drop down to the next lower level. If Soul Connection begins to fade, drop to emotion, if emotion and love begins to fail drop to Money, if money attraction and ambition begin to fail drop to mental comparison, if mental comparison begins to fail, drop to physical and if physical begins to fail, RUN.
I love life and I want to help other people love it too. That means to help stop the negativity and hurt that can block our full potential. http://www.chriswalker.com.au
Over the past 30 years, I've affected positive change in the lives of thousands of people. Individuals and groups.
My work comes from my soul and is a truly life changing gift for people who can handle my no-nonsense method of opening hearts.
The process I embrace can be confrontational, but if you are prepared to "step out," it will get you back on track faster, and save you thousands in counselling fees. The personal power this knowledge gives you is life changing and truly inspiring.
I show people how to bring spirit into their life and keep it there. Using the Laws of Nature I help you discover yourself, and through this work, find the courage to love more and follow your heart more.
At Innerwealth we believe that for business success, you first need to create personal success, and this happens when business and the people within it are on purpose.
Training programs demonstrate how you can make sense of what's going on in the world around you empowering you to be proactive and positive in your life.
Discovery treks take you on and emotional and physical journey into new worlds. I'll immerse you in the beauty of nature, while I coach and guide you toward an open heart. The wonder of nature will encourage you to take a moment to contemplate life, to step away from the pace and just relax, let it all sink in, and find peace and quiet in your heart. I'll deliver you back renewed, refreshed and re-energised.www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
How to Substain Attractions in a Relationship 2
Contact Point Two - Attraction on Mental levels
The mental level of attraction between two people is a vital ingredient of relationship because it underpins, romance, authenticity, attitude and respect. Mental level of relationship comes from COMPARISON. We will always compare who we are with in relationship to others. If we wish to sustain a healthy relationship that comparison must always result in a NEGATIVE. In other words our partner is BETTER that anyone else we continually compare them to. Some people are afraid of this comparison, but it is subconscious, and if ever we allow that comparison to be POSITIVE, in other words our perception is that the person we see looks, feels, smells, acts and contribution in our life IS BETTER THAN our partner, our attraction to our partner on the mental plane will be gone and all that is left for us in this relationship is to fall back into the physical level of attraction.
All affairs are started as a result of the loss of ANIMAL or MENTAL Attraction.
3. Contact Point Three - Attraction in Money
Although a couple may come together with vastly different wealth, it is in money SPENDING that there needs to be a harmony that causes attraction. This spending must be in some harmony, and this is triggered by AMBITION. One person with a high ambition to build wealth and another with no ambition, or a smaller ambition to build wealth will struggle to sustain a relationship at this level. One client met a partner and they found incredible compatibility in ambition. However, one person was happy when their net worth reached $1 million dollars, that was their dream, the other was dreaming of $20 million, and so their spending patterns became radically in conflict. Once I started a business partnership with my relationship partner and we built a successful business but she was content with what I thought was just the beginning of a huge opportunity, and we lost inspiration to work together and this, which was part of our original attraction, faded our attraction.
4. Contact Point Four - Attraction through Emotion and Love
Many people are very over committed to this level of attraction in relationship and as such it is the most common cause for attraction and loss of attraction. It is incredibly simple to understand why there are so many problems. First, we are attracted to people whose emotion toward us is how we want to feel. If, for example, if they are impressed with us, we want to feel impressive. If they are nurturing toward us we're attracted because we want to feel nurtured. But there's a problem. The emotion we have toward others becomes the emotion they have toward us, and a person who is keen to have some impression showered on them, is obviously being very hard on themselves, or if the person is needing nurturing then they are obviously not very nurturing so, the emotional attraction soon - very soon - flips - because people treat us with the same emotion that we treat them, and we treat people with the same emotion we treat ourselves. There is a massive amount of work people invest in this one area alone, trying to change each other, or even choosing "religious" correct emotions to treat each other when, it could simply be pickled down into "treat others as you want to be treated." Ultimately, emotions are energy and the synthesis of all emotions is Love.
How to Substain Attractions in a Relationship
THE FIVE POINTS OF CONTACTWhen we meet someone and merge into a relationship there are certain attractions we are not aware of, and as these discount, we lose that original attraction. Then relationships fail.
I can list for you those original attractions, they come from five contact points of relationship. Any one contact point can cause attraction but all have influence. So, for example, we might enter a relationship based on one of the five contact points, then, all the other four are not important. As long as we sustain the intensity of that one contact point we can live without the others. But over time, that living without, is almost impossible.
1. Contact Point One: Animal or Physical Attraction.
We have five senses and each sense has criteria to accept or reject people. This is an individual thing, what one person accepts at a sensory level another might reject. The animal, or physical attraction between two people can therefore cause relationship, and as long as there is quality control in that area, it will remain a strong sense of magnetism between two people.
Animal Attraction of Smell: Body smells, perfumes, hair, after shave, sox, breath - the sense of smell is not so much given credit for its power of attraction but it is powerful in causing rejection. Smell is the first and most powerful subconscious trigger to turn off, animal attraction. I once dated a lady with breath similar to a donkeys bum, she was an amazing woman but I just couldn't sustain attraction to her.
Animal Attraction of Sight: We have in our mind's eye, a series of criteria that make us attracted to or repelled from another person. Sometimes we get attracted by what we see, and then it changes and we lose it. I once lost interest at a physical level with a woman I was dating when she deliberately shaved her head. Seems trivial but.... it's an individual thing.
Animal Attraction of Taste: Although we think about our taste buds on the tip of our tongue, they also extend to our taste in clothes, furniture, cars, seats on planes, luggage, shoes and much much more. So, there's an enormous need for some level of diversity with harmony in taste. In other words if a person's choices are repelling then we can say they're not going to be attractive to us.
Animal Attraction of Touch: When some people put their hand on yours it feels fantastic and tingles go up your spine, when others touch you, you feel invaded and cold. The power of touch in animal attraction is very important. One lady I dated sweated so much from her hands you could take a bath in the them, her touch was always clammy, and although she was a wonderful soul, I couldn't really hold animal attraction to her.
Animal Attraction of Sound: Have you heard the sound of a winging moaning complaining voice - sometimes these voices emanate from one country or another, and this can be extremely repelling at an animal attraction level. The sounds of attraction also include the footsteps, the way they put things down, or move about the house, even closing a car door is a sound associated with attraction. Of course, music is obvious. It is important to feel a harmony with the sounds another person makes. Rarely does this attraction to sound include flatulence and belching.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
I can list for you those original attractions, they come from five contact points of relationship. Any one contact point can cause attraction but all have influence. So, for example, we might enter a relationship based on one of the five contact points, then, all the other four are not important. As long as we sustain the intensity of that one contact point we can live without the others. But over time, that living without, is almost impossible.
1. Contact Point One: Animal or Physical Attraction.
We have five senses and each sense has criteria to accept or reject people. This is an individual thing, what one person accepts at a sensory level another might reject. The animal, or physical attraction between two people can therefore cause relationship, and as long as there is quality control in that area, it will remain a strong sense of magnetism between two people.
Animal Attraction of Smell: Body smells, perfumes, hair, after shave, sox, breath - the sense of smell is not so much given credit for its power of attraction but it is powerful in causing rejection. Smell is the first and most powerful subconscious trigger to turn off, animal attraction. I once dated a lady with breath similar to a donkeys bum, she was an amazing woman but I just couldn't sustain attraction to her.
Animal Attraction of Sight: We have in our mind's eye, a series of criteria that make us attracted to or repelled from another person. Sometimes we get attracted by what we see, and then it changes and we lose it. I once lost interest at a physical level with a woman I was dating when she deliberately shaved her head. Seems trivial but.... it's an individual thing.
Animal Attraction of Taste: Although we think about our taste buds on the tip of our tongue, they also extend to our taste in clothes, furniture, cars, seats on planes, luggage, shoes and much much more. So, there's an enormous need for some level of diversity with harmony in taste. In other words if a person's choices are repelling then we can say they're not going to be attractive to us.
Animal Attraction of Touch: When some people put their hand on yours it feels fantastic and tingles go up your spine, when others touch you, you feel invaded and cold. The power of touch in animal attraction is very important. One lady I dated sweated so much from her hands you could take a bath in the them, her touch was always clammy, and although she was a wonderful soul, I couldn't really hold animal attraction to her.
Animal Attraction of Sound: Have you heard the sound of a winging moaning complaining voice - sometimes these voices emanate from one country or another, and this can be extremely repelling at an animal attraction level. The sounds of attraction also include the footsteps, the way they put things down, or move about the house, even closing a car door is a sound associated with attraction. Of course, music is obvious. It is important to feel a harmony with the sounds another person makes. Rarely does this attraction to sound include flatulence and belching.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Secretes of Long Lasting Relationship 3
THE THIRD SECRETE - HAPPY
We all know that "making someone happy" is impossible. An unhappy person is unhappy and no relationship on earth is going to change that, right? We are on the same page? Most people think a relationship is going to make them happy, but that's a week, month or a year at the tops. Unhappy people are unhappy, in and out of a relationship. Oh, and by the way, Happy people don't get Unhappy because of the relationship. The fact is some people just don't know how unhappy they are until they get into a relationship that cuts off their escape routes.
So, here's the real rub for long term relationship success in Happiness.
YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY.. Yeah baby, it's you. Not your partner, not your relationship, that's nothing to do with it. YOU have to be happy and the most important thing you have to be happy about, is nothing.
Now, you might be confused, so, here's a bit more information on this. Being happy because you get, got, have, or had something is physical and understandable so lets label that PLEASURE. Pleasure of the physical nature can come and go, as we all know. So, it's really dumb to label HAPPY with the derivation of pleasure. If pleasure comes and goes, then so will our happiness. We're like a donkey chasing a carrot on a stick or a cat chasing its tail. This is a definite burnout model for relationships.
HAPPY people ARE HAPPY. No cause.
So, HAPPY in relationship means HAPPY in LIFE means HAPPY in SELF. A miserable person might be attracted to a Happy relationship but eventually that misery, that internal emotional dialogue infects the relationship and that's the end of romance.
People become as you think about them. If you're appreciating your partner, appreciating them (BETTER) and seeing that, they are helping you live your DESTINY FASTER you have the first part of successful relationship. But the third element, HAPPY, has nothing to do with your partner or your RELATIONSHIP.
Happy is up to you and it is, without question, the most challenging.
We think that Making Someone Happy, will make them want to be with us. That's is not exactly true. If we are already happy before we meet someone, then everything we do will make them happy, it's infectious. But if we are not happy and we try to make others happy, the real hope is that by making them happy, they'll return the favour. This fails.
The most Narcissistic thing we can do is to CHANGE OTHERS TO MAKE THEM HAPPY. The most altruistic thing we can do is to CHANGE OURSELVES TO BE HAPPY, because this happiness is infectious and then, it doesn't matter so much how we serve the world - our happiness guarantees goodness comes from it.
This is ironic because rather than changing your partner, trying to make them happy, you swing it around and choose to make you happy without things. In other words happy without a BECAUSE.
If you find yourself saying, I am happy today, because.....a, b, c, d, then you've just created the opportunity to sink in unhappiness without.....a, b, c, d.
Your happiness - no matter what happens, leads to the best relationship and all the great spiritual literature the emotion you show toward someone is actually what you get back, so, if you're happy, really happy - regardless - then that is the most powerful way to cause their happiness.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
We all know that "making someone happy" is impossible. An unhappy person is unhappy and no relationship on earth is going to change that, right? We are on the same page? Most people think a relationship is going to make them happy, but that's a week, month or a year at the tops. Unhappy people are unhappy, in and out of a relationship. Oh, and by the way, Happy people don't get Unhappy because of the relationship. The fact is some people just don't know how unhappy they are until they get into a relationship that cuts off their escape routes.
So, here's the real rub for long term relationship success in Happiness.
YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY.. Yeah baby, it's you. Not your partner, not your relationship, that's nothing to do with it. YOU have to be happy and the most important thing you have to be happy about, is nothing.
Now, you might be confused, so, here's a bit more information on this. Being happy because you get, got, have, or had something is physical and understandable so lets label that PLEASURE. Pleasure of the physical nature can come and go, as we all know. So, it's really dumb to label HAPPY with the derivation of pleasure. If pleasure comes and goes, then so will our happiness. We're like a donkey chasing a carrot on a stick or a cat chasing its tail. This is a definite burnout model for relationships.
HAPPY people ARE HAPPY. No cause.
So, HAPPY in relationship means HAPPY in LIFE means HAPPY in SELF. A miserable person might be attracted to a Happy relationship but eventually that misery, that internal emotional dialogue infects the relationship and that's the end of romance.
People become as you think about them. If you're appreciating your partner, appreciating them (BETTER) and seeing that, they are helping you live your DESTINY FASTER you have the first part of successful relationship. But the third element, HAPPY, has nothing to do with your partner or your RELATIONSHIP.
Happy is up to you and it is, without question, the most challenging.
We think that Making Someone Happy, will make them want to be with us. That's is not exactly true. If we are already happy before we meet someone, then everything we do will make them happy, it's infectious. But if we are not happy and we try to make others happy, the real hope is that by making them happy, they'll return the favour. This fails.
The most Narcissistic thing we can do is to CHANGE OTHERS TO MAKE THEM HAPPY. The most altruistic thing we can do is to CHANGE OURSELVES TO BE HAPPY, because this happiness is infectious and then, it doesn't matter so much how we serve the world - our happiness guarantees goodness comes from it.
This is ironic because rather than changing your partner, trying to make them happy, you swing it around and choose to make you happy without things. In other words happy without a BECAUSE.
If you find yourself saying, I am happy today, because.....a, b, c, d, then you've just created the opportunity to sink in unhappiness without.....a, b, c, d.
Your happiness - no matter what happens, leads to the best relationship and all the great spiritual literature the emotion you show toward someone is actually what you get back, so, if you're happy, really happy - regardless - then that is the most powerful way to cause their happiness.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Secretes of Long Lasting Relationship 2
THE SECOND STEP TO SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS IS - BETTER
COMPARISON is Nature. Nature compares, so do you. The minute you compare your partner to another person and think that the other person would be a better partner than the one you're with, you're unhappy. And that's the end of it.
Comparison is critical but the outcome is not predetermined. It's you. If you're generous, positive, kind and appreciative of your partner every other person who comes into range of sight, touch, smell, thought, sound, tastes must be subordinate to them. That's it,your partner is BETTER than all your other options. and you do have many including being single.
Compromise means others would be better and that's the most relationship killing, libido depreciating, personally rejecting, heart closing, head banging state of mind a human can bring to another person. You're second best and I'm prepared to suffer it. That's compromise, and it's the first nail in the coffin of happiness.
This relationship you are in has to be perceived as far better than anything else. If you perceive being single as better than this relationship, then you're depreciating the person you're with and hurting them subconsciously. If you're thinking that compromise is ok, then just wait and see how those thoughts eventually sabotage your relationship.
Being in this relationship must be perceived as the best place for you to be. No seconds or thirds. It achieves this status because you choose to think those things, and if you choose not to, then the end is near, eventually.
BETTERMENT is the Deeper Spirit of relationship and if this relationship isn't the best betterment, then it won't last unless you change your mindset.
If you don't get this one, then something is really wrong. People come to a relationship to me BETTER. They don't come to a relationship to SUSTAIN what they already have. Whatever they had outside or before this relationship or could have without this relationship, needs to be IMPROVED by this relationship. BETTER is MAGNETISM and nobody will cheat or defeat BETTER.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
COMPARISON is Nature. Nature compares, so do you. The minute you compare your partner to another person and think that the other person would be a better partner than the one you're with, you're unhappy. And that's the end of it.
Comparison is critical but the outcome is not predetermined. It's you. If you're generous, positive, kind and appreciative of your partner every other person who comes into range of sight, touch, smell, thought, sound, tastes must be subordinate to them. That's it,your partner is BETTER than all your other options. and you do have many including being single.
Compromise means others would be better and that's the most relationship killing, libido depreciating, personally rejecting, heart closing, head banging state of mind a human can bring to another person. You're second best and I'm prepared to suffer it. That's compromise, and it's the first nail in the coffin of happiness.
This relationship you are in has to be perceived as far better than anything else. If you perceive being single as better than this relationship, then you're depreciating the person you're with and hurting them subconsciously. If you're thinking that compromise is ok, then just wait and see how those thoughts eventually sabotage your relationship.
Being in this relationship must be perceived as the best place for you to be. No seconds or thirds. It achieves this status because you choose to think those things, and if you choose not to, then the end is near, eventually.
BETTERMENT is the Deeper Spirit of relationship and if this relationship isn't the best betterment, then it won't last unless you change your mindset.
If you don't get this one, then something is really wrong. People come to a relationship to me BETTER. They don't come to a relationship to SUSTAIN what they already have. Whatever they had outside or before this relationship or could have without this relationship, needs to be IMPROVED by this relationship. BETTER is MAGNETISM and nobody will cheat or defeat BETTER.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Secretes of Long Lasting Relationship
The first secrets to a long lasting relationship is how fast is your partner?
If being with you makes my life slower, makes my aches and pains last longer, makes my emotional downers harder to recover from, makes my career slow down, my plans delayed, my vision extend out for more years, am I going to remain committed to a relationship with you?
We have to recognize here that relationships are based on getting what we want. They're all about love and attraction too, we'll discuss that in a minute, but at the core essence of human existence at the most spiritual levels of heart and soul is, yes, getting what we want. The more we have, in whatever form, the more we can contribute. Nobody wakes up wanting less - (unless it's stress).
Relationships succeed because you are getting what you want, when you want it, and you're getting it more, and faster than you were before. And, yes, I hear the negative implication of orgasms and so on, well think it through before you shoot the messenger. Do you think, you'll stay happy in a relationship if you can get sex faster and easier with a stranger than you can with your partner. People do not gravitate to hard work, or more difficulty. Faster is king and queen of the spiritual realm and relationships at the spiritual realm last forever.
Let's not limit this conversation to sex. Although we could easily do so. Let's add wealth, lets add sport goals, and social friendship roles, career ambitions and humanitarian responsibilities. Do you think we gravitate toward or away from things that slow those down? We gravitate away - it's the Soul of Humanity to strive toward betterment, a better world, a better life, better strength to contribute - which often means more simplicity, more technology, more refined process. It NEVER means more trouble, more difficulty and certainly not, longer periods of waiting. NEVER.
So, the first key to Sustainable Loving Relationship, is FASTER. Faster recovery from emotional upset, faster process toward your goals (include financial), faster process for sexual and personal pleasure and more of your ambitions achieved in a shorter period of time. Link this to your relationship and you'll have magnetism. Find a disconnect and you'll start to lose the libido and communication that makes love grow.
Neutral is good. Some people report happy relationships that don't inspire greatness or operate to make their ambitions come FASTER, but that don't distract them, and therefore are, satisfactory and that's all they wanted from a relationship, no distraction. In other words not positive was ok, as long as there was no negative. Usually, in these situations children are involved and a care taking responsibility was of some value.
I can however, list a thousand cases where, in the desire for a better relationship, one or both partners have actually put the brakes on their partner's ambitions in career or sport or fun, or even philanthropic ambitions, and as such killed the relationship. One lady, partnered a guy who was an aspiring musician with a great full time job to pay his lifestyle. She bought into his life romance and inspiration which added value to his ambition to be a great musician but she was so emotionally self absorbed, his mind and heart we continually distracted by her emotional upset over her children (past marriage), her ex, her life, her health, that in spite of the love that guy had for her, he just drew down to protect his SOUL mission of music. This is nature, protecting her own.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
If being with you makes my life slower, makes my aches and pains last longer, makes my emotional downers harder to recover from, makes my career slow down, my plans delayed, my vision extend out for more years, am I going to remain committed to a relationship with you?
We have to recognize here that relationships are based on getting what we want. They're all about love and attraction too, we'll discuss that in a minute, but at the core essence of human existence at the most spiritual levels of heart and soul is, yes, getting what we want. The more we have, in whatever form, the more we can contribute. Nobody wakes up wanting less - (unless it's stress).
Relationships succeed because you are getting what you want, when you want it, and you're getting it more, and faster than you were before. And, yes, I hear the negative implication of orgasms and so on, well think it through before you shoot the messenger. Do you think, you'll stay happy in a relationship if you can get sex faster and easier with a stranger than you can with your partner. People do not gravitate to hard work, or more difficulty. Faster is king and queen of the spiritual realm and relationships at the spiritual realm last forever.
Let's not limit this conversation to sex. Although we could easily do so. Let's add wealth, lets add sport goals, and social friendship roles, career ambitions and humanitarian responsibilities. Do you think we gravitate toward or away from things that slow those down? We gravitate away - it's the Soul of Humanity to strive toward betterment, a better world, a better life, better strength to contribute - which often means more simplicity, more technology, more refined process. It NEVER means more trouble, more difficulty and certainly not, longer periods of waiting. NEVER.
So, the first key to Sustainable Loving Relationship, is FASTER. Faster recovery from emotional upset, faster process toward your goals (include financial), faster process for sexual and personal pleasure and more of your ambitions achieved in a shorter period of time. Link this to your relationship and you'll have magnetism. Find a disconnect and you'll start to lose the libido and communication that makes love grow.
Neutral is good. Some people report happy relationships that don't inspire greatness or operate to make their ambitions come FASTER, but that don't distract them, and therefore are, satisfactory and that's all they wanted from a relationship, no distraction. In other words not positive was ok, as long as there was no negative. Usually, in these situations children are involved and a care taking responsibility was of some value.
I can however, list a thousand cases where, in the desire for a better relationship, one or both partners have actually put the brakes on their partner's ambitions in career or sport or fun, or even philanthropic ambitions, and as such killed the relationship. One lady, partnered a guy who was an aspiring musician with a great full time job to pay his lifestyle. She bought into his life romance and inspiration which added value to his ambition to be a great musician but she was so emotionally self absorbed, his mind and heart we continually distracted by her emotional upset over her children (past marriage), her ex, her life, her health, that in spite of the love that guy had for her, he just drew down to protect his SOUL mission of music. This is nature, protecting her own.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com
Monday, August 16, 2010
Everyone Has A Role in Relatioships
The task of any relationship is always to find ourselves, to understand ourselves, to be the complete and natural selves we already are. The only true relationship we ever really have is the one we have with ourselves. Everything else, every other interaction, whether we might realize it or not, is simply a reflection. As long as we resist being our natural, balanced selves, the real us, we continue to always attract relationships that will serve to remind us of what and who we are not. Resisting who we are will, therefore, usually attracts relationships that are unfulfilling, or ones where we have to work very hard. By being fully and completely who we are, we then attract relationships that reflect back to us the fullness of our creative being. It is the age old adage: What we put out is what we get back.
Many of us function as if we are only half complete. If we project the vibration of half of an individual, looking around for someone else to complete us, we attract an incomplete relationship. The resulting interaction with anyone attracted in this manner will usually come up short of what we ideally desire. Entering into any interaction from the viewpoint we need the relationship to feel complete, results in the relationship continuing to reflect and remind us of our belief in our incompleteness. What we will have is a partnership made up of two half people, truly satisfying to neither person. When we know we are a relationship unto ourselves, complete and sufficient within ourselves, we set up a vibration that attracts someone with those same qualities and assurance. Too many times people make out long, wonderful lists of all the attributes they wish their perfect partner to have. The question to ask is, are we all those things? Do we have all those attributes? Unless we are able to reflect the type of vibrational being we choose to attract, how will we ever be seen and recognized by someone who does?
Gaius Odiase,
www.gaiusodiase@blogspot.com
Love Must be Reciprocal in Relationships
Which of us hasn't dreamed of finally finding and keeping our perfect relationship? What if we are in a partnership that is confusing and always changing? How do we cope with the loss and heartache relationships can sometimes bring? What if we don't seem to be attracting any kind of intimate interactions at all?
The working dynamics of good relationships are for many of us one of the greatest mysteries of life. It is a secret each of us seeks to unravel from the day we are aware there is more than one of us around. Why do interpersonal interactions -- something we are all engaged in every day, every minute, every second of our lives -- sometimes seem so challenging, complicated, confusing, difficult, and mysterious?
The quality of our partnerships with others actually reflects the quality of the relationships we have with ourselves. Do we know who we are, and do we like who that is? Do we believe we are worthy and deserve unconditional love? While we may know how we would like someone to love us, do we love ourselves that way already? Do we trust and accept all parts of ourselves? The bottom line for most all of us is we simply would like to be loved and accepted for who we are, for our real selves.
As we change our inner definition or template of our male and female selves to a place of balance and self-acceptance, we are able to attract someone who is more reflective of our true counterpart. Even if we are balanced with our inner masculine reflection, if we do not like our own femininity, we would be unable to create a truly balanced relationship for ourselves.
Gaius Odiase.
www.gaiusodiase@blospot.com
It Takes Two To Build A Relationship!
It's no secret that it takes two to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Although I would agree with this statement, I also know there is a lot one person can do to change the dynamics of any relationship. And since none of us have the power to change another person, it only makes sense that the best place to start in our relationships is with ourselves.
At our local Super Walmart, there is a gentleman there by the name of George. George stands at the front door and enthusiastically greets everyone who walks into Walmart. He smiles at the guests and with a jubilant tone, he asks people how they're doing. When he's not talking to someone, he is singing and enjoying life wholeheartedly. George has the ability to change me and my mood, simply by being who he is. By honoring what is important to him - joy - he brings out the best in his Walmart relationships.
Our lives are touched by many relationships. While most of us define a relationship as existing between two people, there are other types of relationships as well. The one component of your relationships that remains constant, however, is you. So as we explore the relationships in your life, I want to invite you to ask yourself these important questions as it relates to each of these precious relationships.
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)