Secretes of Long Lasting Relationship

 The first secrets to a long lasting relationship is how fast is your partner?
If being with you makes my life slower, makes my aches and pains last longer, makes my emotional downers harder to recover from, makes my career slow down, my plans delayed, my vision extend out for more years, am I going to remain committed to a relationship with you?
We have to recognize here that relationships are based on getting what we want. They're all about love and attraction too, we'll discuss that in a minute, but at the core essence of human existence at the most spiritual levels of heart and soul is, yes, getting what we want. The more we have, in whatever form, the more we can contribute. Nobody wakes up wanting less - (unless it's stress).
Relationships succeed because you are getting what you want, when you want it, and you're getting it more, and faster than you were before. And, yes, I hear the negative implication of orgasms and so on, well think it through before you shoot the messenger. Do you think, you'll stay happy in a relationship if you can get sex faster and easier with a stranger than you can with your partner. People do not gravitate to hard work, or more difficulty. Faster is king and queen of the spiritual realm and relationships at the spiritual realm last forever.
Let's not limit this conversation to sex. Although we could easily do so. Let's add wealth, lets add sport goals, and social friendship roles, career ambitions and humanitarian responsibilities. Do you think we gravitate toward or away from things that slow those down? We gravitate away - it's the Soul of Humanity to strive toward betterment, a better world, a better life, better strength to contribute - which often means more simplicity, more technology, more refined process. It NEVER means more trouble, more difficulty and certainly not, longer periods of waiting. NEVER.
So, the first key to Sustainable Loving Relationship, is FASTER. Faster recovery from emotional upset, faster process toward your goals (include financial), faster process for sexual and personal pleasure and more of your ambitions achieved in a shorter period of time. Link this to your relationship and you'll have magnetism. Find a disconnect and you'll start to lose the libido and communication that makes love grow.
Neutral is good. Some people report happy relationships that don't inspire greatness or operate to make their ambitions come FASTER, but that don't distract them, and therefore are, satisfactory and that's all they wanted from a relationship, no distraction. In other words not positive was ok, as long as there was no negative. Usually, in these situations children are involved and a care taking responsibility was of some value.
I can however, list a thousand cases where, in the desire for a better relationship, one or both partners have actually put the brakes on their partner's ambitions in career or sport or fun, or even philanthropic ambitions, and as such killed the relationship. One lady, partnered a guy who was an aspiring musician with a great full time job to pay his lifestyle. She bought into his life romance and inspiration which added value to his ambition to be a great musician but she was so emotionally self absorbed, his mind and heart we continually distracted by her emotional upset over her children (past marriage), her ex, her life, her health, that in spite of the love that guy had for her, he just drew down to protect his SOUL mission of music. This is nature, protecting her own.
www.gaiusodiase.blogspot.com