Secretes of Long Lasting Relationship 2

THE SECOND STEP TO SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS IS - BETTER
COMPARISON is Nature. Nature compares, so do you. The minute you compare your partner to another person and think that the other person would be a better partner than the one you're with, you're unhappy. And that's the end of it.
Comparison is critical but the outcome is not predetermined. It's you. If you're generous, positive, kind and appreciative of your partner every other person who comes into range of sight, touch, smell, thought, sound, tastes must be subordinate to them. That's it,your partner is BETTER than all your other options. and you do have many including being single.
Compromise means others would be better and that's the most relationship killing, libido depreciating, personally rejecting, heart closing, head banging state of mind a human can bring to another person. You're second best and I'm prepared to suffer it. That's compromise, and it's the first nail in the coffin of happiness.
This relationship you are in has to be perceived as far better than anything else. If you perceive being single as better than this relationship, then you're depreciating the person you're with and hurting them subconsciously. If you're thinking that compromise is ok, then just wait and see how those thoughts eventually sabotage your relationship.
Being in this relationship must be perceived as the best place for you to be. No seconds or thirds. It achieves this status because you choose to think those things, and if you choose not to, then the end is near, eventually.
BETTERMENT is the Deeper Spirit of relationship and if this relationship isn't the best betterment, then it won't last unless you change your mindset.
If you don't get this one, then something is really wrong. People come to a relationship to me BETTER. They don't come to a relationship to SUSTAIN what they already have. Whatever they had outside or before this relationship or could have without this relationship, needs to be IMPROVED by this relationship. BETTER is MAGNETISM and nobody will cheat or defeat BETTER.
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